Boys, girls, men, women and relationships. We all want them, at least in one way shape or form, but we can't all have them. Those who find them however, find that, they aren't all what they expected.
If its one lesson I learned from my past relationships, it would definitely have to be, to never settle. To settle means to find someone that either doesn't have all the qualities you're looking for, doesn't love you or treat you the way you feel you deserve, that you live in constant stress with, simply put, where you know deep down that this isn't the right person for you.
Each and every person deserves to have love in their life. Love that is untainted, love that can create miracles. And to settle for anything less, is pointless. Every person must love them selves enough to find someone to love them and treat them the way they know and should be treated. You don't want to find yourself in a relationship where, all you do is argue, create stress, worry, get hurt, feel unappreciated etc. You want to find yourself to be in a relationship where you can feel, hear and see the love. You want to be stress free, have limited arguments, and where you can truly be happy. Because all in all, the whole reason why the majority of us want a relationship, is so that we can be HAPPY. And if you find yourself in a relationship, that you struggle to be happy in, you are obviously settling. Regardless of history, regardless of 'love', regardless of their happiness, you are ultimately looking to make YOU happy, and if you're not...the best advice I can give anyone, is to put YOU first. Make YOU happy, do whatever it is to make YOU happy. And don't be afraid that you wont find some one new...because you will. Trust me, I know. And now I feel foolish for ever believing that my last relationship would be the best one, I laugh aloud, because, hell...I could've done a 100% better than him...and I will, once I find the right one for me, because I'm not settling once again.
You need to love yourself, before any man or woman can love you. You need to appreciate yourself, before anyone can appreciate you. You need to make sure that you are all you want to be, and be happy with who you are, before you can find the person that's right for you and that will truly make you happy.
We are often misguided by the illusion that a relationship is to have that someone to 'fill the other half of you'. This is so not true, as I've learned. I was once under this illusion as well. But rather that person is their to make you a better person, to help you in any way, to love you in every way. You need to be complete to find that person for you, so to say that you need to find someone to fill the other half of you, your settling. All they are supposed to do, is make that 'whole' you, that much better.
Yes, I understand the feeling of loneliness often gets in the way of what we know is right, however, everyone needs to feel loneliness at least once in your life. And everyone needs to find a way to be ok with it, because once they do, then you are truly ready for a relationship. Because then you wont settle with someone, just so you wont feel lonely. It is then that you'll look for someone you know you deserve, that will love you and appreciate you the way you should be.
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